A. In an older and more formal day this extended to an absolute prohibition of crossing the legs.

Q. What is our present custom?

A. Upon occasions of strict formality—indeed, at all times when seeking to look your best, this older rule may well be borne in mind: neither feet nor legs should be crossed, nor should anything be done to bring the feet or knees into undue prominence.

Q. What should be the action of my hands?

A. The hands should remain at ease, neither clasped nor crossed at the wrists. If the chair has arms, the hands should not be used to grasp them nor should your arms be stiffened.

Q. How is self-consciousness overcome?

A. The knowledge that you are at ease and correctly postured and the attitude cared for until the proper disposition of the body and its members is made second habit, prevent the making of a further demand upon your intelligence or emotions. Good manners and the assurance of correct diction, good grammar, elegance in your speech, are also essential to the effacement of self-consciousness.

BOWING

Question. What is desirable in bowing? Answer. Grace, as in other acts in social life, is eminently desirable.

Q. What muscles are used in bowing?

A. A complex use of facial expression in connection with nearly all the muscles of the human frame is involved in an action so seemingly simple.

Q. What does my success in bowing depend upon?

A. Success depends upon the delicate recognition of that mysterious something called personality in another, by the response of eye and mouth. Your body lends necessary aid by its assumption of deference and subdued pleasure at meeting.

Q. What expressions of the face should I avoid? A. A cold and cutting look in your eye and about your mouth, or the raising of the lower lid of the eye, giving a quizzical or suspicious expression, should be avoided.

Q. To what degree should I smile in bowing? A. You should have a discriminating look or

smile upon your

upon your face when bowing to friends and acquaintances, not a simpering, patronizing look, which is offensive in the extreme.

Q. How can I correct this fault?

A. By changing your mental attitude. If your mind is free from evil and unkind thoughts, beauty of soul will be reflected in your countenance.

Q. What form of bowing is observed in Europe?

A. In Europe, where the spirit of militarism so largely prevails, men combine a military salute with a stiff bending forward from the waist; this is especially ungraceful, and the required bringing of the heels together is often irritating.

Q. What of the English-speaking countries? A. In the English-speaking countries so formal and perfunctory a salute is hardly known, and is better not known at all.

Q. How am I to bow?

A. The eye of the person bowed to is met and engaged; the trunk bent forward at the waist, the act of bending running upward until the head is momentarily dropped, the hands falling forward slightly and equally, without rigidity or lifelessness. The entire body, from the ankle to the crown of the head, is involved in this graceful

act, and there is a particular subtlety added to its performance if the torso is allowed to advance slightly before being withdrawn.

Q. What should I avoid in bowing?

A. Jerkiness, as if controlled by strings, and haste, either in bowing or in returning to the natural poise. You should not bob your head with a quick movement, which is ungraceful and expresses familiarity.

Q. How am I to bow when seated?

A. The same analysis applies to bowing when seated. The trunk should incline forward from the waist.

Q. How should persons of the same social rank recognize each other?

A. Upon introductions or meetings in both every-day affairs and formal circumstances, persons of equal age and status should look one another directly in the eye while pronouncing each the name of the other.

Q. How should I recognize my superiors?

A. By first meeting the eye of the one whom you wish to compliment, then letting the glance sweep down over his body. In this way all men greet the women of their acquaintance.

Q. How do I unwittingly express selfconsciousness?

A. By letting your eyes meet those of another and then sweep over your own body, thus attracting special attention to yourself.

Q. How should I salute servants and subordinates ?

A. If you insist upon

the inequality of man it may be expressed by speaking- let us hope politely and kindly without bowing.

Q. What is required of men in bowing upon the street?

A. In the street or upon any occasion where the hat is worn, it is the duty of a man to remove his hat entirely upon acknowledging the greetings of womankind. These greetings he is in duty bound to acknowledge, whether he is able at the moment to remember the woman addressing him or not.

Q. How should a man remove his hat?

A. With a full sweep of his arm- - carefully avoiding all flourish and an inclination of his body as well, which follows immediately upon the removal of his hat, and recovers as it is replaced.

Q. When should the hat be resumed?

A. If a woman signifies her intention to speak to a man, he remains uncovered, it being of course understood that only thoughtless women prolong