Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite SexHarper Collins, 2004/01/06 - 368 ページ Rediscover the most famous relationship book ever published Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets. Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they can be in their communication styles, their emotional needs, and their modes of behavior—and offers the secrets of communicating without conflicts, allowing couples to give intimacy every chance to grow. |
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How to Motivate the Opposite Sex | 40 |
Speaking Different Languages | 60 |
Men Are Like Rubber Bands | 98 |
Women Are Like Waves | 120 |
Discovering Our Different Emotional Needs | 143 |
How to Avoid Arguments | 165 |
Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex | 199 |
How to Communicate Difficult Feelings | 233 |
How to Ask for Support and Get It | 276 |
Keeping the Magic of Love Alive | 307 |
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accepted afraid anger angry appreciate argue arguments ask for support automatically avoid become begin blame caring cave communication compact discs didn’t disappointed disapproval emotional empathy Endless GAMES everything explore express favorite Martian feel better feel loved feels unloved forget frustrated fulfilled give happy healing heard hours abridged hurt important insights intimacy John Gray lems listen little things man’s marriage MARS AND VENUS MARS VENUS Martians message he hears mistake mistakenly mother need to talk needs to feel needs to pull negative feelings opposite sex pain partner practice primary needs realize reassurance rejected relationship remember request resentment resist Response Letter rubber band say yes seminar share her feelings solutions solve someone sorry suddenly talk about problems tion Trade paperback trust trying understand unknowingly unresolved feelings upset validating Venusians wife woman feels women need women want York Times Bestseller
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5 ページ - Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do. We have forgotten that men and women are supposed to be different. As a result our relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict. Clearly recognizing and respecting these differences dramatically reduces confusion when dealing with the opposite sex. When you remember that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, everything...
5 ページ - Without the awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odds with each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because we have forgotten this important truth. We expect the opposite sex to be more like ourselves. We desire them to "want what we want" and "feel the way we feel." We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways — the ways we react and behave when we love someone. This attitude sets us...
37 ページ - When women want to talk about problems, men usually resist. A man assumes she is talking with him about her problems because she is holding him responsible. The more problems, the more he feels blamed.
12 ページ - IVIartians value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. They are always doing things to prove themselves and develop their power and skills. Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results. They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishment. They are more interested in "objects" and "things" rather than people and feelings.
xxxiii ページ - Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently. They almost seem to be from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment.
28 ページ - I would stop anything I was doing if he greeted me that way." Only later in our marriage did I realize what was actually going on. Men and women cope differently with stress. According to John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, men, when faced with stress, "become increasingly focused and withdrawn while women become increasingly overwhelmed and emotionally involved. At these times a man's needs for feeling good are different from a woman's. He feels better by solving problems...
5 ページ - ... For years they lived together in love and harmony. Then they decided to fly to Earth. In the beginning everything was wonderful and beautiful. But the effects of Earth's atmosphere took hold, and one morning everyone woke up with a peculiar kind of amnesia— selective amnesia!
145 ページ - But when she is crashing, her loving vision becomes cloudy, and she reacts more to what is missing in her life. Just as a glass of water can be viewed as half full or half empty, when a woman is on her way up she sees the fullness of her life. On the way down she sees the emptiness. Whatever emptiness she overlooks on the way up comes more into focus when she is on her way down into her well. Without learning about how women are like waves men cannot understand or support their wives. They are confused...
43 ページ - Vciuisians on their respective planets suddenly became depressed . . . When the Martians became depressed, everyone on the planet left the cities and went to their caves for a long time. They were stuck and couldn't come out, until one day when a Martian happened to glimpse the beautiful Venusians through his telescope. As he quickly shared his telescope, the sight of these beautiful beings inspired the Martians, and their depression miraculously lifted. Suddenly liter fell needed.