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Whose later SORRows have been especially
regarded in the following PAPERS..
My Dear Friends,
soon as you cast your & A * Eyes upon this little Piece, Surya fome of you will imme
diately think of the good Husband who is no more; or of the tender Parent who has given the last Blessing. Others will remember the dear Wife, the Defire of your Eyes; the pretty Child, in whose
(6 ) Life your own seemed to be bound up; the Brother will come into mind, who was as your own Soul; and the excellent Friend, who sometimes sticketh closer than a Brother. I have had all thefe Cafes in my Eye; and with a Sympathy that can only arise from fome Experience and Benevolence in Conjunction, have endeavoured to assuage and improve your Sorrows at the same time.
It is fomewhat neceffary to have been acquainted with Grief, in order to address suitably to the Tenderness of its Nature; to obviate the Subelety of its Pleas, and Pretensions for Excels, and to manage its Operations and Effects. There is danger, otherwise, of increasing the Anguilh we would alleviate, and
the the Wound is made to bleed afresh * : Even Balm itself may be painfully applied
There are, indeed, fome Wounds that will heal of themselves. Give them a little Time, and the Stock of Sorrow is not so great but it will quickly be spent: The hafty Showers will soon be over. But the real Mourner is apt to have the Reasons of his Anguish continually before him; and to be more intent upon wafting his Spirits than his Sorrows: Fond of Solitude and Silence, that he may indulge his Passion, and provoke the Emotion of that Grief which is ready to devour him; taking-a fort of Pleasure to lie down under-its Oppression, and becoming
a willing * Curando fieri quædam majora videmus
Vulnera, quz melius non tetigifle fuit.
(8) a willing Prey to its furious Disorders. Upon offering to speak, they reply eagerly, “It is an easy Matter to talk; “ you would limit my Grief, and « not suffer its Vent; but if it werè “ your own Case you would resign “ yourselves up to it, or faint under • the Pressure of such a Calamity.” The first Onsets of Sorrow do indeed call for Compassion more than Advice: We are to mourn with them that mourn. The Silence of Job's Friends, because they saw his Grief was very great, was more to the Purpose than any thing they could say. It would be inhuman to deny the Relief of Mourning, when Mourning itself is often its own Relief. But is there any Harm in prescribing Bounds to it? By what Rule of common